#are you trans if you dont experience dysphoria

[spartalabouche]

sometimes its really obvious how much people dont actually believe presentation=/=gender when they see their nonbinary friend go from extremely masculine to relaxing back into femininity once theyre comfortable with their gender and every time they call it detransitioning with zero indication thats what their friend is calling it. i dont know how to tell you this but sometimes you present a certain way for social reasons and not because thats how you actually feel. sometimes you experience dysphoria about your body that is actually related to how people view you and not how you feel about your body. i really dont think its that uncommon for trans people to swing really hard in one direction for the affirmation and then relax back into a different presentation once they are more comfortable in their gender

[sunny-daze-days]

Being Trans and not experiencing gender dysphoria that strongly has got to be one of the weirdest experiences I've ever felt.

Do I know I'm a man? Yes.

Does not having a you know what downstairs feel like not having on a ring you've had on for years? Yes, I feel like I'm missing something.

Do I wish I had a flat chest above all else? Yes

But it's not debilitating. I'm just there. My body is just existing. is it kind of shitty I don't have a flat chest and a you know what? Yeah, but my brain isn't as concerned about it as other Trans men are and I think that's one of the reasons it's like taken me so long to come out and validate myself as a Trans man.

Like when I was introduced to the concept of being transgender, gender dysphoria was like presented as almost a requirement for being Trans, if that makes sense. Like I thought because I didn't feel gender dysphoria (at least not much, I felt gender euphoria more) that I somehow wasn't Trans enough.

Does anyone else thats Trans (man or otherwise) also feel this way? Genuine question

[kingscythe]

seeing other trans people take your deadname as their chosen one feels so weird. sort of like if you gave away a shirt you hated and some time later you look over the aisle to see someone clutching the thing to their chest, beaming like its the most beautiful piece of clothing in the world. and then you gotta be like damn. stuff really is what we make of it huh

[find-your-flame]

Beige Mirror

Sonic doesn't make a habit of looking at himself in the mirror for very long.

It's not that he doesn't like looking at himself (quite the opposite, in fact), he just doesn't need the reassurance. He knows he looks great without having to double-check, he knows his quills will sort themselves into their natural, phenomenal style without him having to bother with products or styling, and he knows his adorable, handsome face doesn't need any help from bottles, brushes, or powders. He's cute and he knows it, and he doesn't even have to try!

But every now and then, he ends up catching sight of his reflection and-- well. It's not that he hates what he sees. He looks fine, he always does, it's just...

Well, he looks fine.

Not great, not phenomenal, not... Not anything.

Just... Fine.

His eyes flick about, picking apart the hedgehog in the mirror, and he looks alright. There's nothing wrong with him, there never is.

But...

(He turns his head down and combs his fingers through his quills.)

(His hands run down his sides and his front.)

(He licks his thumb and tries to smooth down the fur on his cheeks.)

(He stares into his own eyes, trying to figure out what's so off today.)

He frowns, huffs softly through his nose, and turns away from the mirror with a loose shrug.

It's just okay.

[cepheusgalaxy]

Love it how ass class said "if you try to teach your kids by shouting at them the only thing they'll learn is how to try and predict you so you don't shout at them" and literally everything else they said in there. Gold show.

[omgcatboi]

I just learned you can report anons, so guess what just happened to the anon being intentionally transphobic to me? ( they got reported )

I don't ever post about any negativity sent my way because I always just block and go about my day, but this time, I noticed that you can infact report anons now.

So I'm just spreading awareness so all my followers know that you can, infact, possibly get someones account shadowbanned for them sending enough anon hate that gets reported.

I understand being degraded, insulted, and humiliatiled are all kinks I have and thoroughly enjoy but you need to ask someone in dms or anon if it's ok to call them certain things before you do so. I reported the anon because I don't want these behaviors being normalized against other fat trans folk despite me personally not being bothered by these insults.

[zapsoda]

one of these individuals is trans and the other is a terf. can you tell which is which just based on what theyre saying here.

because i couldnt. i didnt realize they were a terf until i looked at their blog.

if you lack compassion and thought for your fellow trans people, particularly those with different experiences, you may end up saying shit like this thinking it is smart and progressive. gender itself ≠ gender roles, societal expectations based on gender, or the very nature of enforcing and forcing those ideas onto others, etc etc etc.

[aoifereal]

Man. It's crazy how much I've changed in the last year and a half. My tits are so much bigger now. I think my haircut is better. I'm bigger overall but I don't feel big in my body (a thing I used to cry about). My hairs no longer bright red. I used to have some slay feminine looks which was cool at the time even if I wouldn't want to dress that way now. I didn't know how to dress myself properly I was buttoning women's shirts all the way up lol. I was pretty in a way I don't really feel these days and I think if I looked the way I looked then now I'd be more confident going in like. Women's toilets for example.

[zahkeete]

Me: Wehhh I don’t really think I have any dysphoria, I really don’t feel trans at all ;[

Also me just now: *felt like bawling my eyes out after seeing my mom presumably got me manly man smelly men dark shower gel instead of my usual girly flower gel*

[party-gilmore]

“you’ve got he/him in your bio but you don’t even try to pass 🙄”

this is because i (a man) love cross-dressing (as a woman) hope that helps

[the-sun-is-evil]

im neither cis or trans, but a secret third thing

[cephalodon]

i dunno what everybody else is talking about your warabi is fabulous

thank you!!! 😭💜

[fagofgod]

fuck you IMDA fuck you IMDA forever

[frankotalk]

you have to admit its pretty funny that transphobes will go red in the face screaming and foaming at the mouth because their basic understanding of gender is being challenged while somewhere in the world some trans person is chilling in a hammock drinking from a coconut with a bendy straw and a little umbrella

[busket]

it feels so unfair to say "all trans men have to do to pass is to get on T and maybe go to the gym, while trans women have get laser hair removal and ffs and and voice training-" and I think this statement is cruel to trans women. I hope you know trans women DONT need to get all those things. you can still pass as a woman without all those procedures. many of these things are to reduce the feelings of dysphoria, not to "pass". you can pass perfectly well as a woman and be beautiful and feminine, but maybe shaving is a hassle (plenty of cis women have facial hair too btw) or your facial features give you dysphoria so you get ffs. but you never had to get those procedures if you dont want them. I think that sentiment that estrogen does nothing and you need to pay for surgeries to look like a woman is so harmful. we do not need to be telling trans women that the only way they can look like women is to shell out all this money for surgeries because it's simply not true.

and of course it also flattens the experience of trans men who do take T for years and still get misgendered, and don't pass. I understand the frustration behind it bc when testosterone works it fucking WORKS but it's so damaging to say that estrogen isn't also very powerful and causes big changes too.

[agangofwolves]

Hey, fat trans woman out there, who has never made a post, who has only ever lurked. I know youve tried a million different methods for dieting. I know youve wrestled with body image issues and dyspmorphia in a way that rivals the burning self-hatred of dysphoria. I know how bad that feeling is. I know you have a closet full of clothes that dont fit you, but you'll wear them "when you lose weight."

Maybe you will lose weight, and thats great, but maybe you wont.

Maybe you cant right now.

Maybe a diet is too hard for you to handle at this point in time.

But that's okay.

I need you to know that, if youve had your life eaten up by this constant, 24/7 anxiety about your body weight, you arent alone in that. Fat trans femmes dont talk a lot about our own experiences, we arent represented like skinny trans femmes. Im real. You're real.

We have been, our entire lives, conditioned to believe in very rigid, strange ideas of cishet beauty, from our assigned gender roles to our weight,

But queer love and queer beauty supersedes that idea. Unlearning that self-hatred is so hard for many fat trans folks, but you can take a step. Its probably a big one, and its a tall order, but, i need you to do something.

I need you to accept that you are fat, at this point in your life. Wear clothing that fits your figure. Look at other girls that look like you. There is happiness in a fat girl's life, i promise you from the bottom of my heart that there is.